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That kind of wisdom you only acquire in your mid-twenties

   Throughout the years, you learn that, sometimes, Acceptance is your best friend; Letting go is your second best friend.
  Making assumptions is your most fierceful enemy.
   Those nights when you would crawl in your sleep, sweating and shivering alone, in the dark, were not love. They were exactly the product of the absence of love.
  In time, you learn to accept that loving yourself is not a cliche, but the best investment you can make; You realize that all those relationship didn't fail because they didn't love you , but rather because you were unable to receive their love.
   You reach 25 and you become less ashamed to admit you are an outsider; a loner; that you can count on your fingers the people you trust with your secret and your time. That you fear being abandoned and dread intimacy. As a result, the closer they get, the further away you run. And you know it's ok because this is who you are. You find shelter within yourself and hide there; if you are alone, then no one can hurt; if you've left them all, then no one can leave you.
  And those who truly love you will be upset for few hours; maybe call you bad names; slap you on the face. But at the end of the day, it's ok because this is who you are. This is who they love.
In time, you learn to distinguish between addiction and love and realize that those nights when you would force yourself to stay awake just so you won't miss things - despite being extremely tired - were a result of your own demons and foolish obsessions. You are human and it's just ok to get exhausted. You will miss things, because they happen, whether you are awake or sound asleep. In time, you accept you have no control.
  And it's ok because by now, you have already realized that lack of control equals love. I don't own you, you don't owe me anything. I can't and don't want to control you. You are a free person and can be wherever you want; if you choose to stand by my side, then it means you feel the love. My love is freedom. Fly away and never look back, if you must -I'll always be there, you live in my mind, I am made of all your dreams and nightmares.
  In time, you realize that the same Universe runs through all our veins; that we are made from the same star dust; and I cannot love myself more than I love you for the sole reason that we are the same. And it's perfectly fine.

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